Divorce is a simple matter, more form than substance.
The big problem is "separate." This itself is difficult and we are going through the entire existence.
The separation of the person with whom at some point in our lives we project, nothing more and nothing less than a family impact us from a psychological, physical, social, economic and finally, at the legal level.
The anger, anguish, grief, sadness, frustration, anger and hatred, all the extreme emotions, usually present when we do we face the situation of separation. And this is so even when we ourselves who decide to separate, is for any reason whatsoever.
Neither marriage shall be happy at times of separation, for the simple reason that the separation means accepting or something we wanted, and we evaluated as positive for our lives, has been completed, or at some point we made a mistake - a bad choice or decision- we can no longer hold or remedy.
is common, especially in middle-aged couples, traveling in the same marriage several gaps to reach the final. In such cases, it is also common that the last separation, the final such partners might shattered emotional, economic and often physical, while some even come to violence was impossible to "stop the ball on time."
Other, couples, generally older, more traditional or make the fight, discussion and separations "cyclical" or "latent" form of life, a form of bonding, and hating reach old age, while necessitating because how could a boxer to practice their favorite sport without an opponent willing to fight?
The socio-cultural framework, the social norms of the place where one lives and develops the life of couples and family, play an important role at the time of separation. There are couples who stay together, despite not getting any enjoyment of two, because not stand submitted to the family, the school's parent group, or coworkers, as separate. Experience separation as a failure who do not want to publish and prefer to live poor, rather than publicly admit that this family project that both excited and moved for years, no longer works. Many of these couples, even while keeping up appearances, develop parallel lives or hidden without achieving either of these relationships have emotional fulfillment.
intentionally Leaving aside the issue of religious limitations on the theme of separation, while couples who do not separate religious grounds, even if they do not enjoy living together, not need any other advice , rather than to dictate their conscience and faith.
The truth is that even for those who prefer to take changes and make decisions in situations that are unpleasant, separation is also a complex decision as not only affect personally, but also affect their environment, children, family and friends, who without any capacity of decision or choice must bear the consequences of rupture.
is why you should think carefully about if you really, what bothers us today our spouse, takes the seriousness of a decision to remove and analyze if there is no way of agreement or negotiation to remedy the discomfort and allow the project to continue healthy family you have. It is likely that after a certain number of years together, routine, boredom, or the crisis of each age, to suggest a separation as a means of escape. But it is also likely to face and communicating these feelings spouse, you can renegotiate the terms of coexistence, creating a new contract, more suitable to the needs of the moment ..
However, if you have a strong inner conviction that separation is the only way to achieve well-being, or if you have already tried the route of the renegotiation and no good results, the separation will be more favorable exit. Even if it produces pain in oneself and the environment, addressing the decision to separate on time, separated also mean "good" and prevent further pain and wear.
Separase implica no sólo ponerle fin a la convivencia con el cónyuge, sino también la decisión de iniciar una vida “independiente” del mismo. Esto que suena a una verdad de Perogrullo, no es tan sencillo de asimilar y explica el por qué muchas parejas aún después de haber terminado la convivencia, siguen discutiendo por los mismos temas que discutían cuando estaban casados, o siguen intentando o efectivamente controlando a su ex.
Como dijimos, ponerle fin a la convivencia es lo realmente complejo. Una buena separación conyugal, si bien no rompe el vínculo matrimonial (ello sólo occurs by death or divorce), we not only lead to a "good divorce", but also the possibility of starting a new and positive stage in our lives.
Keep calm, take time to analyze situations, and advice on the characteristics and conditions leading to a "separation" is key unavoidable, if you are looking to improve the quality of life have.
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